The Family

The Family

Saturday, May 21, 2011

Day #25: To have or not to have

  I grew up on shows like Full House and 7th Heaven, the families were big and happy. Now I watch shows like Parenthood and Brothers and Sisters, each boasting big families that eat together, live a few miles apart, and are each other's best friends. I like to imagine myself with this big family one day, lots of kids and in-laws and grand kids....
  So the time has come that if we wanted a third child and if we wanted them to be the same 2.5 years apart as Savannah and Luke, I'd have to get pregnant. Next month. I know, I know, the kids don't all have to be the exact same years apart, but I would like it to be similar and not to have my oldest and youngest too far apart, ya know? Tyson is all for another kid; of course he is! He isn't the one who will be pregnant, or breast feeding, or struggling to lose 40 pounds.again. And I have to admit, having two kids has its perks. I like that we have a boy and a girl, its east to divide and conquer. Tyson and Luke can go to Home Depot while Savannah and I grocery shop.or better yet, go to the mall. The kids are each others playmates, they only have each other, so there is never an odd man out. I can spoil them separately. If I buy Savannah a baby doll, I don't have to get Luke one too. I have two younger sisters and my mom would always say, "I can't buy you that because then I'd have to buy two more just like it for your sisters." Tables at restaurants are made for four, not five. My youngest sister Sam was always stuck in a chair at the end of the booth at restaurants, which I'm pretty sure she is still bitter about. Two kids seems more manageable than three, I feel like I already stay busy enough with two, how would I make time for a third?
   It doesn't help that I have 12 (at least) "friends" (I use quotations because I admit some of these people are FB friends, people I haven't actually spoken to in years) who are having or about to have babies this year! Maybe just MAYBE, I'm having a touch of baby fever?...possibly, especially since Luke will be two in September! However, I do feel like I'm just now getting a little bit of my life back. Babies are hard work! I mean, they are cute, but heck, sleep deprivation, crying, all of it- wears.me.out! Throw in a husband who has an unpredictable work schedule and who deploys regularly, and it's even more tiring. Right now I have two children who sleep through the night, can feed themselves, and who are independently mobile. I just don't know that I am ready to go back again right now, or ever.
 

4 comments:

  1. In 16 years or so, that 2.5 age difference is not going to be a good thing because "poof" they are GONE and it is very, very quiet. I say go for it; I wish I had had a 4th. This is Ms. Yetter (I can't get any of those options to take my email address so I'm having to choose anonymous! I'm tecnically challanged! and my kids aren't here to help!!)

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  2. You forgot the car issue. With 4 people in a family you can drive a sedan. With three you are required to be a mini-van mom. That being said--I like minivans!

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  3. I've always wanted a big family like 7th Heaven, etc! But I agree with you - before we just had Caden our world was peaceful and we got sleep and Connor could do things on his own and then came Caden and we love him to death but we are now back to no sleep and the baby schedule. It is super hard, not only on you as a person, but it can be stressful on the whole family. I use to want 4 children and now I'm down to 3 children, lol, but my husband pointing out all those things you mentioned in your post about this third child that doesn't exist in our family, but is possibly wanted by me. I agree to have or not to have.....takes lots of thinking! Good luck

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  4. You just need a dose of Jackson, after Wednesday you will be all set....and your ears may be ringing ;)

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